We keep saying "it takes a village", but then we send families home with their baby, or maybe no baby and there is no village. This phrase doesn't just apply to parenthood. It takes a village to survive, especially in 2020 when it is even harder to be with your village. We are quarantined and locked down, but we need support when times get tough. Who brings us groceries if we are locked down with covid? Who watches your toddler when grandparents can't come into town and you are not at home while delivering your next kiddo?
When I get a flat tire and my car is in the shop for a week awaiting replacement tires my village comes. When I got strep throat and didn't know if it was covid my village dropped off soup on my porch. When bad things happen your village supports you and when good things happen they celebrate with you.
So many recall having to build their village, and postpartum really isn't the best time to do that. Frankly, I don't think the responsibility to build a village should fall on one individual. I think we need stronger communities with more resources to make up our villages. The providers in your community, friends, neighbors, all of those people make up the village.
"It takes a village to raise a child" is an African proverb that means that an entire community of people must interact with children for those children to experience and grow in a safe and healthy environment."
Supporting organizations that bring community together is so important. A great example of this is the work done at Ancient Song. This group of doulas connects with their community through doula services, but also through donations of baby gear to families in need. They support their community in vital ways.
We need organizations like this everywhere in the U.S.
Everywhere people are having babies.